I once dated this mixed, half white, half Chinese guy, who dressed well...let's call it urban. I'm not sure how the conversation started but I do recall a time I was at his house, a rather large beautiful upper middle class home and he chuckled at the topic. "Mental illness is a white person thing," … Continue reading Stigma of mental illness in the black community
Let me begin by saying I am no man expert (man-pert, if you will). In fact, I'm not very good with men (despite having my first boyfriend in Grade 4 - we held hands). I'm terrible at the "game." Usually, my past boyfriends have started out from friendships. BUT what I do know is mental … Continue reading Dating in 2018 and Having a Mental Illness: 8 Tips & Tricks to Avoid Getting Hurt
*I have many draft posts I never got around to publishing, this is quite old. April 2017. Still a funny read though. I don't know how I didn't see this coming. I can usually spot a sketchy guy from far away. I'm out of practice. I fell in love (8 years ago). The game's changed. … Continue reading How I got a Insta-boyfriend, Scammed and then Faded On Part 1
A hot topic among my girlfriends seems to be should I be casually dating someone and how long can it go on for? Now the guy I'm "seeing," who I met on Tinder, I'm pretty sure will never marry me. Ever. He's still in his twenties and a few years younger (which is another story … Continue reading Is 30 Too Old to Date Casually?
There are so many angles I want to examine this from. From the dating perspective, part of me feels I made a big mistake giving the second guy (Uber guy) an ultimatum. As my brother-in-law informed me, no one likes an ultimatum –no one, not your family, friends or significant others. Keep them to yourself. … Continue reading Spoiled, Dating and Depression – Part III
I wrote a post last week about my latest dating adventure and I mention that a certain situation (the man not making sure I had a means to get home) has happened to me before. This is that first situation. We went to a movie that ended at about 8pm. And decided to walk to his … Continue reading Spoiled, Dating and Depressed
Now this has happened twice to me in the last year. But even the second time I feel hella good doing it/not standing for it. And that is odd for me because sometimes I can get down on myself instead. I am just too old for this foolishness. After meeting a suitor on Tinder (which … Continue reading When a man doesn’t drive you home. A dealbreaker? Hell yes!
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Date a girl who doesn’t read. Find her in the weary squalor of a Midwestern bar. Find her in the smoke, drunken sweat, and varicolored light of an upscale nightclub. Wherever you find her, find her smiling. Make sure that it lingers when the people that are talking to her look away. Engage her with unsentimental trivialities. Use pick-up lines and laugh inwardly. Take her outside when the night overstays its welcome. Ignore the palpable weight of fatigue. Kiss her in the rain under the weak glow of a streetlamp because you’ve seen it in film. Remark at its lack of significance. Take her to your apartment. Dispatch with making love. Fuck her.
Let the anxious contract you’ve unwittingly written evolve slowly and uncomfortably into a relationship. Find shared interests and common ground like sushi, and folk music. Build an impenetrable bastion upon that ground. Make it sacred. Retreat into…
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